The best moment to “Deal” with tempers, tantrums and meltdowns is AFTER they are over and done with. 
Suddenly, these become pathways for growth and new self understanding. Suddenly tools can be offered, which wouldn’t have been understood before. Nothing is more empowering than to find the opportunity in these moments. (Make sure you download the Emotions Workbook from my other course Spiritual Kids as one of these tools to offer.)

* Please note… that tempers in anyone younger than 3 are almost always caused by hunger, tiredness or some physical discomfort. I don’t encourage you to try sitting down and discussing anything of deep nature with a toddler as they live so fully in the moment.